For almost a decade, through my work as a mental health researcher at the University of Cambridge, and my own pursuit of the science of wellbeing, I’ve looked at how to become resilient and bounce back from challenges such as anxiety and depression. This research—involving analyzing the data of more than 30,000 people, and interviews with hundreds of individuals I’ve met through my radio show and seminars—has led me to realize that there are 10 negative moods or patterns that hold people back in life and get in the way of their happiness, including indecision, procrastination, lack of self-control, anxiety and rejection.
So, I wrote The Instant Mood Fix (Penguin, 2021), which contains 50 science-based coping strategies to help you get closer to the life you want. It includes people’s experiences and research that shows us how we can recover from difficult situations.
Now, more than ever, people are looking for ways to enhance their mental health—it’s the empowerment approach. With consistent practice, you can move forward and find a new way of perceiving the world, connecting to other people, and rebounding from challenges. I firmly believe that no matter what age you are, you can take charge of your wellbeing and turn things around.
Here is a taste of the solutions for challenging life situations that can be found in the book.
If you’re suffering from indecision…
Research shows that it’s often better to go with what your instincts are telling you when you have to make a complicated decision, such as whether to take a new job or whether a relationship is worth continuing. Interestingly, the opposite is true if you have to make simpler decisions, such as which brand of towels to buy—in this case, thinking about the pros and cons can help you arrive at a better solution.
If you’re suffering from low motivation…
Sometimes we find it hard to begin something because we don’t feel thoroughly prepared or are discouraged by the high expectations we set for ourselves—this often makes us grind to a halt or causes a delay. A quick way to beat procrastination is to do it badly. The quote by writer and poet GK Chesterton sums it up well: “If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.” When we let go of perfectionism and stop thinking about what the final product should look like, things begin to shift. When we jump right in and care less, paradoxically, things begin to go right. We often become more motivated and the next action becomes easier. The great thing is that you can always return to your task later and refine it. But first, do it badly.